Three Ways to Constructively Evaluate Your Year
Maybe that title captured your attention…. hopefully in a good way. I was careful to stay positive, as what’s done is done. There’s no turning back this far into December. The best we can do is move forward celebrating our successes and making a plan for what did not work as well as we would have liked.
According to the Helpful Professor, Constructive Criticism is defined as “honest, genuine, well-meaning feedback that provides a critique of the strengths and weaknesses of something or someone. The criticism should be specific and offers clear suggestions on how to address deficiencies. Remarks should be clear and the suggestions provided should be feasible and reasonable.”
Let’s use the last few days of this month to effectively evaluate this past year! We share constructive criticism and feedback with others, both professionally and personally. Why wouldn’t we take the same care to provide it for ourselves? Here are a few of my tips on how we can do this:
Give yourself praise where praise is due!
Without even knowing the details of your life, I know for sure that you made it through. I mean… look at you, you’re here reading my thoughts and opinions with your full faculties intact (well, most of them at least, it is still a busy holiday season).
But seriously, YOU ARE HERE. So many others are not here and able to say the same thing! We cannot take our waking up this morning lightly. So, think about your successes… maybe helping your child make it through their first semester of school (kindergarten or college), celebrating a milestone birthday, getting married or having a child, ending a relationship that was no longer healthy for you, starting a new career or even ending a career path that no longer… WHATEVER your specifics may be, you are worthy of being celebrated. PLEASE do so!
Assess how you’ve handled adversity:
Honestly, this particular category will need some work for me personally in the coming year. When facing adversity, I tend to be a little too hard on myself and dwell on the negative aspect of a particular situation. That’s not helpful to me, nor the situation.
Something to think about: what does adversity encompass for you? It may include a change in your health, a new medical diagnosis, a loss of job or family, worry and stress, or even an overwhelming responsibility. Whatever if may be for you, think back on how you’ve handled it in the past or presently. Does that response serve you well? Or would you benefit from making adjustments moving forward? Sometimes, it simply takes a change of mindset, while other times it may require a full personal overhaul that includes adjusting your body’s physical and spiritual responses, in addition to the mental.
Get comfortable with asking for help:
Oof! This one is big, well bigger than you think… Sometimes you may choose to take on a task or an assignment alone, when getting some help would be much more beneficial and truly help lighten your load. This fact is true for the workplace, but most definitely in our personal lives as well.
Think about a time when you had a GRAND plan to accomplish something, but fell short of your own expectations OR maybe you didn’t even complete what you set out to do! YEESH! Turns out all you needed was a little assistance, but perhaps you were too proud, too shy, or too stubborn to ask for the help. DON’T let that be you in 2024. Let’s not allow an opportunity pass us by, simply because we didn’t get the help we needed. Remember, sometimes bigger wins can be attained through collaboration.
