Three Ways to Constructively Evaluate Your Year
We share constructive criticism and feedback with others, both professionally and personally. Why wouldn’t we take the same care to provide it for ourselves.
Maybe that title captured your attention…. hopefully in a good way. I was careful to stay positive, as what’s done is done. There’s no turning back this far into December. The best we can do is move forward celebrating our successes and making a plan for what did not work as well as we would have liked.
According to the Helpful Professor, Constructive Criticism is defined as “honest, genuine, well-meaning feedback that provides a critique of the strengths and weaknesses of something or someone. The criticism should be specific and offers clear suggestions on how to address deficiencies. Remarks should be clear and the suggestions provided should be feasible and reasonable.”
Let’s use the last few days of this month to effectively evaluate this past year! We share constructive criticism and feedback with others, both professionally and personally. Why wouldn’t we take the same care to provide it for ourselves? Here are a few of my tips on how we can do this:
Give yourself praise where praise is due!
Without even knowing the details of your life, I know for sure that you made it through. I mean… look at you, you’re here reading my thoughts and opinions with your full faculties intact (well, most of them at least, it is still a busy holiday season).
But seriously, YOU ARE HERE. So many others are not here and able to say the same thing! We cannot take our waking up this morning lightly. So, think about your successes… maybe helping your child make it through their first semester of school (kindergarten or college), celebrating a milestone birthday, getting married or having a child, ending a relationship that was no longer healthy for you, starting a new career or even ending a career path that no longer… WHATEVER your specifics may be, you are worthy of being celebrated. PLEASE do so!
Assess how you’ve handled adversity:
Honestly, this particular category will need some work for me personally in the coming year. When facing adversity, I tend to be a little too hard on myself and dwell on the negative aspect of a particular situation. That’s not helpful to me, nor the situation.
Something to think about: what does adversity encompass for you? It may include a change in your health, a new medical diagnosis, a loss of job or family, worry and stress, or even an overwhelming responsibility. Whatever if may be for you, think back on how you’ve handled it in the past or presently. Does that response serve you well? Or would you benefit from making adjustments moving forward? Sometimes, it simply takes a change of mindset, while other times it may require a full personal overhaul that includes adjusting your body’s physical and spiritual responses, in addition to the mental.
Get comfortable with asking for help:
Oof! This one is big, well bigger than you think… Sometimes you may choose to take on a task or an assignment alone, when getting some help would be much more beneficial and truly help lighten your load. This fact is true for the workplace, but most definitely in our personal lives as well.
Think about a time when you had a GRAND plan to accomplish something, but fell short of your own expectations OR maybe you didn’t even complete what you set out to do! YEESH! Turns out all you needed was a little assistance, but perhaps you were too proud, too shy, or too stubborn to ask for the help. DON’T let that be you in 2024. Let’s not allow an opportunity pass us by, simply because we didn’t get the help we needed. Remember, sometimes bigger wins can be attained through collaboration.
As I shared above, the best way we can move forward at this point is by celebrating our successes and making a plan for what did not work. Just remember to be kind to yourself… acknowledge what went well, assess how you handle adversity, and get comfy asking for help!
5 Health & Wellness Tips For The Fall Season
As we head into the final three months of 2021, take advantage of the seasonal changes to focus on making positive and healthy changes in your own life!
It’s that glorious time of the year, Fall! The time of the year known for pumpkin-spice treats and beautifully colored falling leaves. And while the days may be shorter, the weather is also milder. What a wonderful opportunity for each of us to take note of our own position in this space and focus on finishing the year out strong.
As we head into the final three months of 2021, take advantage of the seasonal changes to focus on making positive and healthy changes in your own life!
Here are a few tips to help you stay focused on your health & wellness this season:
Set goals & intentions:
Decide what you want to accomplish over the next few months. Be specific. In fact, create SMART goals. What is a SMART goal, you might ask. Well, it is one that is Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Bound. For example: As opposed to saying “I want to run a 5k sometime soon”, a SMART goal would say “I plan on completing the Thanksgiving Turkey Trot 5k in November, and will prepare by training 3 days per week until then”.
Write your goals down. Make sure they are visible, not tucked away in a drawer. The more accessible they are, the more they will serve as a reminder for what needs to be done and when it needs to be done.
Get the family involved:
With the weather cooling down, outdoor activities become more bearable for the entire family. This season presents so many opportunities to take advantage of this change… think pumpkin patches, community charity/holiday races, state fairs, and even local parks and state forests. All of this outdoor activity will give you (and the family) the opportunity to take in some fresh air, Vitamin D, get your muscles moving, and not to mention, it can do wonders for your mental health & wellness.
Be mindful of nutrition choices:
As I mentioned above, the fall season also brings tons of sweet treats and drinks. Pumpkin-spiced this… caramel-flavored that…. you know, the really tasty, tempting, hard-to-resist holiday goodies. Now, I’m not suggesting that you avoid them completely, because I’m definitely not. I’m simply reminding you to be mindful. These last three months of the year include holidays that focus heavily on candies, pies, cakes, cocktails, and more. Enjoy yourself, but do not undo all of the progress you have made, thus far. If you do find yourself enjoying those seasonal goodies a little too much one day, just refocus and start again the next day. Don’t make it a situation that lasts throughout the end of the year, causing you to settle on the idea of waiting on a fresh start in 2022. Don’t wait! Be intentional right now, so that 2022 is just a continuation of the healthy lifestyle you have already established this year!
Renew commitment to self-care:
As 2021 has progressed, you may have found yourself taking care of others more than yourself. It happens, it’s normal. But, use this changing of the seasons to renew your commitment to yourself and get back on track. A few ideas might include:
Establish daily or weekly quiet time for devotion, prayer, or meditation
Continue or begin writing in a journal
Treat yourself to a massage or another spa service
Choose a new book to read or pick up the one collecting dust on your nightstand
Try a new class… think cooking, painting, cookie decorating, or even learning to play an instrument
Whatever you decide, just make sure that it’s for you.. your choice, on your schedule, and as often as you deem necessary.
Be realistic, be patient, & stay consistent:
Hopefully, you followed the guidelines listed above and created SMART goals for yourself. With those goals always top of mind, remember to be realistic. This time of the year has to potential to be very enjoyable, don’t let happiness get lost by being too hard-nosed when it comes to your goals. Be patient with yourself and give yourself grace. Do not get caught up with strict diets or overworking yourself with exercise. Instead, focus on making changes (or adjustments) that aid in creating lifestyle changes and lifetime habits. We’re on this journey for the long-haul, y’all! Your consistency will reap positive, productive, and measurable rewards.
Remember, it’s a new season. This is the perfect opportunity to do something NEW, something BOLD, and something BEAUTIFUL! Whatever that may look like for you, I simply ask that you give it your all. You deserve your effort. Take advantage of the seasonal changes to focus on making positive & healthy changes in your own life!
Staying Healthy While on Vacation
As we enter into the last few weeks before kids head back to school, or you’re simply just enjoying the sun and fun that the summer months bring, I wanted to stop in to share a few healthy tips to keep in mind.
As we enter into the last few weeks before kids head back to school, or you’re simply just enjoying the sun and fun that the summer months bring, I wanted to stop in to share a few healthy tips to keep in mind.
Some folks attempt to go on major diets before a vacation to lose weight, in hopes of making up for what may happen during the vacation. That is something I suggest NOT doing. For one, I’m not a fan of diets…. By “diet”, I mean short-term, restrictive, ways of eating that are sometimes so limiting and unlike your normal routine, that you revert back to old habits as soon as the “diet” ends! I’m more interested in creating and maintaining an overall healthy relationship with food, in which you enjoy the foods you love, while still being mindful of what works best for the proper functioning of your body, specifically.
I would like to share a few ways you can maintain your healthy lifestyle goals while on vacation:
Maintain good eating habits. Don’t forget to put fruits and vegetables on your vacation plate. Also, look to eat lean proteins. If you travel internationally, commit to trying some of the healthy fruits and veggies local to the areas you visit! We all know that feeling when you overindulge in food that is too heavy, too rich, and just too much…. you run the risk of missing out on precious vacation activities, because you’re stuck in the restroom! Ugh!
Choose smart snacks. Keep some “healthy” snacks handy for those times when you’re out and about enjoying yourself. Think protein bars, nuts, or light trail mix options. They just may help you resist the urge to grab something that contains too much sugar or too much fat. Now, I don’t recommend all “healthy” snacks for every day of vacation, you’ve got to have a bit of fun trying some new treats! Yay!
Stay hydrated. Keep a bottle of water with you as you go throughout your vacation days. Getting enough water is so important and is a must if you’re traveling to an area with bright, sunny days and high temperatures. Add in some physical activity, and that need for hydration will increase even more. The water will also help you feel full, which can help slow down your eating. Stop, drop, & chug!
Keep moving. Most hotels have adequate fitness centers to meet your needs. And, I actually love getting to work out in a new environment when we travel. Just think, a 30-minute workout is just 2% of your day. There’s still plenty of time to enjoy the rest of your day. Honestly, you can incorporate exercise into your vacation in many different ways: snorkeling, hiking, rock-climbing…. You can even count sight-seeing and window-shopping, if you pick up your pace and don’t stop too long! Ha!
Last, but not least, ENJOY YOURSELF! This article simply serves as a guide to assist you during your vacation. Please do not stress yourself out trying to stay focused at the same level you do in your every day life. Your vacation is an opportunity to step away from the normal routine… visit new places, see new sights, meet new people, and even try new foods! However, I must say, some of my favorite vacation days include sleeping in, ordering in, and hitting up the fitness center for 45-minutes. No matter what, you are in control. Let’s just make the most of our summer days!
5 Ways to Celebrate Women’s Health Month
The goal is to empower women to make our health and wellness a priority. Taking control of our health leads to us feeling and looking our best, and in turn, being our best in all other aspects of our lives.
The goal of Women’s Health Month
is to empower women to make our health and wellness a priority. Taking control of our health leads to us feeling and looking our best, and in turn, being our best in all other aspects of our lives.
There are five tips that I would like to share with you to help you make the most of Women’s Health Month. It is my hope that you are able to take these ideas and truly run with them, flourish, and let May be the month that you take charge of your life as the fierce, female that you are!
Schedule (& keep) your doctor’s appointments - Whether it is an annual well-woman visit, preventative screenings, or just your regular check-ups, GO! If you’re like me, you may have put off or postponed appointments you had scheduled last year during the height of the pandemic. Well, take the time now to reschedule them.
Get moving & stay active - Reestablish a routine, find a new hobby, even reignite an old passion. There are still so many online fitness options, and even in-person activities are resuming. But, remember, you don’t even have to leave the house… do laps in the backyard, go for swim in the pool, take your stairs, or do some leg lifts in the kitchen while you cook!
Make healthier food choices - We all love good food! Enjoy it! But, also strive to make healthier version of those favorite foods and drinks. Incorporate more fruits, vegetables, and water into your daily meals and snacks.
Don’t forget your mental health - The term “self-care” is becoming almost overused or even made to be more complicated than it needs to be. But, it truly includes tasks as simple as resting, reading, longer showers, listening to podcasts, going for a drive, or my pandemic favorite: sitting in my car in the driveway! No lie, this was one of my best actions taken to get a moment alone time and clarity. Hey, we do what we’ve gotta do!
Avoid unhealthy behaviors - These behaviors can rear their ugly heads in the form of relationships, thoughts, and excessive smoking, drinking, and overeating. It’s important to enjoy life, food, people, and entertainment, but all of it should be done in moderation or appropriately. and, only you as an individual knows what the proper amount is for yourself.