Fall In Love…
Fall in love…. with yourself, first. In my opinion, before we can properly love and serve others, we must know how to properly love and care for ourselves. You know that saying “You can’t pour from an empty cup”? Well, that means even with the best intentions, we cannot give the best of ourselves in any given situation when our own tank is running low. Let’s think about that a little bit further… Imagine when you are driving your car with a full tank of gasoline, feeling confident that the vehicle will take you to your destination, and then some. After a while the gage reads that you are down to half a tank. You acknowledge the level, but know that you still have time to worry with that later… there’s no sense of urgency, because half empty could also be viewed as half full, right?! Lol! One-fourth of a tank…. one-eighth of a tank… GAS LIGHT comes on! Oh NO!
You’ve let too much time pass…. now, you are only left with a couple of options. You can stop for gas on the way to work, but only if you get up even earlier, skip breakfast, maybe run out the front door…. OR, you have to stop after work, after dark, at just the nearest gas station you can find, no matter what the neighborhood looks like. Woah! That’s a lot, but re-read that whole scenario and imagine that your body and mind are the gas tank. OUCH! It is really the same notion, it is really the same way that we sometimes treat ourselves. We expect our bodies and minds to keep going indefinitely without the proper fuel.
“Self-care is one of the active ways that I love myself. When you can and as you can, in ways that feel loving, make time and space for yourself.”
With that being said, we are days away from what has become known as the holiday to celebrate love, Valentine’s Day. Loved ones and friends around the world exchange candy, upscale dinner dates, gifts, flowers, and other expressions of affection. And, while you may be the giver or recipient of some, or all, of these lovely sentiments, I would encourage you to treat yourself just as well.
I have put together a list of ways you can show love and care to yourself. Sometimes, you have to think outside of the box, be creative and realize that there are so many ways for us to nourish our minds and bodies to fill our own gas tanks, before we pour into others.
Browse a bookstore for a book that catches your attention. Remember, it can be relaxing to find an interesting and light read, sometimes. Get lost in a good story that can take you away from your everyday norm.
Create a brand new recipe or update an old favorite. Make an entire evening out of it. For example, if you choose Mexican food, set the entire mood. Make a cocktail that complements the meal, and even play music of Mexican origin.
Enjoy a long, bubble bath or an aromatherapy-filled shower right in your own home. Turn off your electronics, light a candle, and just relax.
Come up with a new exercise routine. Working out does not have to be a chore. There are so many different types of movement geared towards strengthening, while relaxing you at the same time. For example, Yoga is a great mind/body exercise. In addition to physical postures, you engage different breathing techniques, and even meditation.
And last, but not least, buy yourself a box of chocolates (my favorite are pecan and caramel dipped in chocolate, just saying), and a bouquet of your favorite fresh flowers. Enjoy dinner from your favorite restaurant, do not be afraid to eat alone. It may feel awkward at first, but I know from experience that the feeling passes. Think about it, you do not have to share, and there’s no judgment about what you’ve ordered! Lol!
Now, I realize that some of these options are not as easy as others, especially when you may have a house full of little ones. But, part of the commitment to loving and caring for yourself means figuring out how to make it happen from time to time. We schedule appointments with doctors, supervisors, teachers, and even lunch dates with friends, the least we can do is pencil ourselves in, once or twice a month at minimum. If it doesn’t quite go as planned, don’t beat yourself up, reschedule and try again. Prayerfully, you have a long life ahead of you, you’ve got time to figure it all out, just do it.