The Ongoing Journey of Self-Improvement
Truly, there is no greater work to be done than figuring out how to be our absolute best as human beings. Think about it…
Did you know that September is National Self-Improvement Month?! I had a general knowledge of the occasion, but had never taken the time to be intentional about sharing with others what that may look like for us. Of course, we all would like to improve within certain areas of our own lives… maybe we have even set routines or habits into place to achieve a particular level of improvement.
There are several self-improvement “gurus”/experts around the world holding seminars and webinars on the topic. You cannot walk into your local bookstore without finding a display table full of the latest and greatest techniques to put into action. And while those are all well and good, what really matters the most is what you do with all of that information. Just like anything in this life we are living, we have to put in the work! Truly, there is no greater work to be done than figuring out how to be our absolute best as human beings. Think about it… whether you are functioning in the role of a parent, spouse, employee, friend, employer, etc., you should operate from some level of knowledge, expertise, willingness to learn, and love for what you are doing. And that’s just on a base level. If you want any advanced level of success, it will take ongoing effort on your behalf to grow and keep up with increased demand and advancements in any particular field you happen to engage in.
I should share, in case you didn’t know (*wink), I’m no expert in self-improvement! Shocker, right?! Ha! I’m a work in progress! Also, I just so happen to be a continuous life-long learner looking for ways in which to improve myself, FOR myself and FOR others. So, that’s where we will start! I just want to share four ways that I strive to achieve ongoing self-improvement. Prayerfully, you learn something from me and will then also share what currently works for you.
Get enough rest - Proper rest could mean the amount of sleep you get at bedtime, but also taking rest breaks during your daily activities. Rest allows your body and mind to reset and refresh, preparing for the next task/activity. Imagine what you could achieve if you were able to get your ideal amount of sleep each night. I cannot tell you what the proper number of hours you need, but the Sleep Foundation recommends that most healthy adults need at least seven hours of sleep each night.
Study to become an expert - Whether it be your career, your passion, or your role in your family or friend circle, put in the work to be your best. I say “work”, but when you are doing something that you love, it really doesn’t feel like work. And when you do it well (whatever “it” may be), there' is a sense of pride and accomplishment that comes with learning new skills and elevating yourself to a new level. This also includes surrounding yourself with like-minded people who have similar goals and aspirations. They are sometimes able to provide that forward momentum needed to assist on our journey.
Build your confidence - With the gaining of new skills, the increase in personal confidence often comes. However, we shouldn’t rely solely on whether or not we are able to achieve an expertise level. There are a ton of factors that come into play when studying to become an expert, specifically the fact that it can take TIME… possibly an undeterminable amount of time. So, instead of waiting, we’ve got to find other ways to improve confidence. Let’s explore how….
Pay attention to your appearance - Presenting yourself in a clean and neat manner can make a huge difference in how you feel and how others receive you.
Practice positive self-talk - Remind yourself of your strengths and your goals through the reciting of, and journaling of, positive affirmations.
Stop comparing yourself to others - Remember: comparison is the thief of joy! We want ALL the joy! Your journey is yours, and yours alone. When we look at others, we are often only seeing a snippet of their full life’s story. Therefore, we should keep our focus on ourselves… there is plenty of work to be done within that requires our time and attention.
Pray and try meditation - For me, prayer allows me to remember that I’m not alone, and it also requires me to be accountable outside of myself. I find answers, insight, guidance, and love in my relationship with Jesus. Meditation can also play a helpful role in grounding ourselves. I prefer guided meditation, because sometimes my mind is moving so fast with the day’s tasks and responsibilities, that I’m unable to slow down enough for it to be beneficial. With guided meditation, clear direction is provided with oral instructions about body posture, breathwork, imagery, and visualization. It’s very helpful to take 3-15 minutes to focus before continuing your day, hopefully with an improved mindset and calmer disposition.
My wish is that these four insights aid in your journey to self-improvement. And while September is designated as a time for this focus, don’t let the work you do for yourself stop on September 30! Keep moving forward, keep doing your individual best. Of course, this list is not exhaustive, but it’s definitely a start. Take what you need and add what currently works for you. So many forces in this world have the potential to negatively affect our wellbeing, so we must stay consistently focused on improving ourselves so that we can pour positivity into our environment… locally and beyond!
5 Ways to Celebrate Women’s Health Month
The goal is to empower women to make our health and wellness a priority. Taking control of our health leads to us feeling and looking our best, and in turn, being our best in all other aspects of our lives.
The goal of Women’s Health Month
is to empower women to make our health and wellness a priority. Taking control of our health leads to us feeling and looking our best, and in turn, being our best in all other aspects of our lives.
There are five tips that I would like to share with you to help you make the most of Women’s Health Month. It is my hope that you are able to take these ideas and truly run with them, flourish, and let May be the month that you take charge of your life as the fierce, female that you are!
Schedule (& keep) your doctor’s appointments - Whether it is an annual well-woman visit, preventative screenings, or just your regular check-ups, GO! If you’re like me, you may have put off or postponed appointments you had scheduled last year during the height of the pandemic. Well, take the time now to reschedule them.
Get moving & stay active - Reestablish a routine, find a new hobby, even reignite an old passion. There are still so many online fitness options, and even in-person activities are resuming. But, remember, you don’t even have to leave the house… do laps in the backyard, go for swim in the pool, take your stairs, or do some leg lifts in the kitchen while you cook!
Make healthier food choices - We all love good food! Enjoy it! But, also strive to make healthier version of those favorite foods and drinks. Incorporate more fruits, vegetables, and water into your daily meals and snacks.
Don’t forget your mental health - The term “self-care” is becoming almost overused or even made to be more complicated than it needs to be. But, it truly includes tasks as simple as resting, reading, longer showers, listening to podcasts, going for a drive, or my pandemic favorite: sitting in my car in the driveway! No lie, this was one of my best actions taken to get a moment alone time and clarity. Hey, we do what we’ve gotta do!
Avoid unhealthy behaviors - These behaviors can rear their ugly heads in the form of relationships, thoughts, and excessive smoking, drinking, and overeating. It’s important to enjoy life, food, people, and entertainment, but all of it should be done in moderation or appropriately. and, only you as an individual knows what the proper amount is for yourself.
However you choose to celebrate, acknowledge, or participate in Women’s Health Month, please just take care of yourself and be safe! Work on making your best self even better by utilizing some of the tips I listed above. And, last but not least, Happy Women’s Health Month!
5 Stress-Busting Activities
When it comes to the subject of stress, I believe we can all relate. And if we have learned ways to beat (or minimize) stress, I believe we should share! That’s what I’ll do here.
When I share a blog post with you guys, it is usually based upon something I’m going through or a topic someone has shared with me. When it comes to the subject of stress, I believe we can all relate. And, if we have learned ways to beat (or minimize) stress, I believe we should share!
“: a state resulting from a stress
especially : one of bodily or mental tension resulting from factors that tend to alter an existent equilibrium”
Excellent definition, but let’s put that in a way that’s easier to understand. I translate that as “physical or mental stress can be caused by factors that take us out of our normal or usual state of being”. Think about it the stress you’ve experienced…. school studies, increased workload at your job, relationship issues, health concerns, financial worries, etc. … When we are put in a situation in which we lose some form of control, we tend to begin stressing. That stress can expose itself to us in a variety of ways, as everyone is different. Physiological reactions to stress could be digestion issues, increased sweating, even increased blood pressure and pulse. Physical reactions to stress may include clenched jaw, tense muscles, and dry mouth. Emotional responses to stress may show up as feelings of being overwhelmed, being easily agitated or frustrated, low self-esteem, and even sadness. Lastly, cognitive symptoms of stress may present themselves and end up making your “stressful” situation even worse. These responses include worrying, forgetfulness, lack of focus and poor judgment. Imagine (or, remember, if these responses have affected you in the past) how these particular reactions could make a work or relationship situation escalate even more… definitely not helpful. So, let’s talk about how to bust this stress when it rears it’s ugly face in our daily lives!
While there is no substitute for getting professional help (spiritual or otherwise) when needed, there are some activities you can do on your own to ease the effects of stress. Below, you will find 5 actions that have worked for me. You may have already tried some of these before on your own, but some may be new for you. Either way, use this as reminder for when those stressful times arise, because they most surely will.
Get some sleep - This is one of the best ways that you can take care of yourself. Honestly, it is truly one of the most difficult tasks for me to complete. One of the most beneficial tasks for me is to create a bedtime routine. Start winding down as bedtime approaches, create the appropriate ambience in the room (relaxing and desired temperature), minimize work/household tasks, and shut down electronics! And, one of the most valuable pieces of advice I’ve been given is to get out of bed if you find yourself tossing and turning after more than thirty minutes to an hour. When you get up, take yourself out of the bedroom and do a lowkey, calming activity. Those activities may include reading or light stretching, for example.
Get some exercise - I definitely know how important this one is, as I share this with my personal training clients daily. According to the American Heart Association, a good starting goal is at least 150 minutes a week. And remember, while I would love to have you, you do not have to seek out a gym, personal trainer, or group fitness classes to get your exercise. Make a commitment to just start moving more! The addition of physical activity will not only benefit your health, but it can also give you a release for your normal daily routine. That, in turn, can be a great relief of stress.
Reach out to family and friends - Hopefully, you have a supportive, safe space circle of people that you can count on to receive encouragement, when needed. If not, make it a priority to create that type of space for yourself. Establish a comfortable and confidential connection that you can count on. Also, be prepared to reciprocate, as needed.
Eat better - Another important task to focus on, and I do not use the word “task” lightly, is eating better. This takes your dedication and commitment to figure out what works for you, and then to continue on with consistency. Eating better doesn’t simply mean fruits, veggies, and lots of water. You may need to do the proper, in-depth research to find out which foods make you feel your best and which ones may trigger issues with your health, specifically your insides. What do I mean by “trigger”? Have you ever eaten something and immediately regretted it? Not regret from the standpoint of guilt, but regret because you know how icky it made you feel… think diarrhea, indigestion, nausea, etc. Doing some research, and getting to the bottom of what may be ailing you, may ease some of the angst and stress you experience or, at least, make it less taxing.
Find a hobby - If you already have a hobby you love, get back to it! Sounds easy enough, but sometimes finding the time to enjoy your hobbies can be stressful in itself! Does that make sense? Let me explain… If someone offers to share a great book they’ve read, but you’re not in the mindset to settle in a quiet space and read (or, maybe you do not have the time), don’t force it! Now, it may be just the opposite: you actually used to love reading, but just got away from it for a while. Their suggestion is just what was needed to reignite that passion for reading.
As I stated at the beginning of this message, the subject of stress is a topic I believe we can all relate to. And, if we have learned ways to beat (or minimize) stress, I believe we should share! I hope you learned something today, or were at least reminded of facts you already knew. While this list is not exhaustive, it’s definitely a start. The activities listed do not take the place of professional help, but can aid in your journey to less stress. Let’s take care of ourselves. There are way too many factors in this world that work against our wellbeing, so we must educate on that which is within our control.